Hi, I’m so happy the October edition of this year has found its way to you. This month has been busy and hard. I’ve felt lost, exhausted, and at times surrounded by darkness. I felt stressed, overwhelmed, and under a lot of pressure. I felt alone. But through it all, I have learnt to be there for myself. Although it has been difficult, it has been one of the months where I have learnt and grown the most. This is why I’m looking forward to sharing my learnings from October and intentions for the coming month with you.
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You are all you have. You are on your own, and you need to be there for yourself. You need to show up for yourself, because no one can show up for you in the way you need yourself to. No one can love you the way you need to love yourself. No one can be there for you in the exact way your heart longs for—except you. You are your home. You are the only constant. And the beautiful thing is that when you are there for yourself, you are never alone. You will always have yourself. When you are kind, compassionate, and loving with yourself, that is the person you will always have with you. When you learn to trust yourself, you will always have someone to trust. When you believe in yourself, you will always have someone who believes in you. You.
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Let people be who they are, instead of trying to change them into someone they are not. Let people be themselves, instead of projecting your wants, ideas and visions of who they should or could be onto them. Let people be who they are, rather than projecting who you are onto them. You need to let them be who they are just as they should let you be yourself. You might think you know what is best for them, but the truth is, you need to let them find their way. You need to let them get lost and find their direction. You need to let them go through challenging moments. You need to let them grow. You can be there for them as they do, but you cannot do it for them. You need to trust and let them become who they are meant to be.
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What you fear is the change that comes with your growth. When you move beyond the fear, you lean into growth. Growth begins where your comfort zone ends. If you want to grow, you need to leave behind familiar patterns, comfortable habits, and the fear that is keeping you small. You need to rise above. Every step you take past your fear, every moment you choose courage, you claim further growth. Fear is the signal that you are stepping into something bigger than before. It shows up when you are on the verge of transformation or when you are moving through it. But the more you face the fear, the less it persists and the more it is overcome by trust. On the other side of fear is strength and clarity. On the other side, there is hope. On the other side of fear, you find the life you’ve always wanted.
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be more careful with who I give my trust. I will be more cautious about the people I let in and share openly with—my energy, my time, and my heart.
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not grieve what didn’t happen and know that it happened in the way it did for a reason. Everything happens for a reason and the universe is taking care of me. It will all work out as it is meant to, and in knowing this, I will find more comfort and peace.
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What I am especially grateful for in October is all the people who have been there for me, especially my family, friends, and my publisher. I’ve felt surrounded by so much love and support, and am feeling so thankful for the kindest messages I’ve received from some of you. Your words really warm my heart and always remind me why I love what I do so much. On another note, I went to a wonderful event with my mum with moments I will hold close, and I finally submitted my bachelor thesis. October has reminded me that even in the hard seasons, there is always something to be grateful for.