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Don't miss the love in front of you because you want more. Don't miss the moment you're in because you're anticipating the next. Don't believe believe you're unhappy chasing happiness in material things when it's in moments with the people you love. Don't miss peace, looking for it around you when it comes from within. Don't neglect gratitude, taking for granted what you'll one day realize was a blessing. Don't dismiss how far you've come because you're fixated on how far you still have to go—be proud of it. Don't focus on being lost; commit to finding your way. You're living the life you once wanted; don't miss it by wanting more.

You are not hard to love. And I’m so sorry if anyone made you feel this way. I’m sorry if someone wasn’t able to see your worth, if someone couldn’t hold your heart the way it deserved to be held. You are enough—more than enough—and the right people will see that. They will understand you and love you fully—just as you are.

When you matter, you’ll know. Not because someone tells you, but because they show you. The effort never lies. The people who love you will show it in consistent ways—by reaching out, by asking how you are, and by choosing you. They don’t see time with you as something to fit in but as something worth making space for. If someone can’t do that, it’s not because they lack time. It’s because they don’t want to make time for you. It’s because you’re not their priority. It’s a choice. Let go, and find people who choose you.

You don’t have to be someone else, but you need to be somewhere else. You need to be with someone else. It’s not that you are too much, too sensitive, too quiet, or too difficult. Don’t change who you are; change where you are. Change the spaces that make you feel like you don’t belong. Change the people who make you question your worth. In the right place, with the right people, you will realize there was never anything wrong with you.

Everything happens at the right time because it is happening. If it were the wrong time, it wouldn’t be. Timing is part of what makes it meant for you. There is no right person at the wrong time. If it is the wrong time, they are not the right person. If they found you, it is because the time was right enough to let them. What is yours does not miss you. It finds you when your life has space for it. Trust the moment you are in. What makes it right is that it is happening. Everything is on time.

What if the most beautiful and the most painful emotions are one? What if grief is actually beautiful because it’s love? What if it only exists because love exists? To grieve is to love someone deeply and wholeheartedly. Grieving means having shared your life with someone who mattered—someone you were blessed to love, would do anything for, and can’t imagine life without. Maybe grief isn’t proof of what you lost, but proof of what you were given. Maybe grieving is a blessing. Maybe grieving is the highest form of love. Maybe grief softens when you let it become gratitude.

Maybe you need to be alone for a while. Maybe you need to choose your own company, and remember there is no shame in being alone. Sometimes it is healing to step away, for a while, from everything that broke you. It is hard. Heartbreaking, even, to sit in stillness with yourself and let go of all the ways you learned to become who others wanted, who others knew, who others loved. When no one is there, you remember how to be there for yourself in the ways no one ever was. Maybe after losing yourself in what you were supposed to be, this is the only way home.

Changing the way you think will change a lot, but it won’t change everything. You cannot think or feel your way into a new life. But a shift in how you think builds momentum that pushes you toward creating one. Changing who you are and how you live is what changes your life. A new life is not given to you. It is built—intentionally—by you. You change how you feel. You change how you act. You change what you embody and attract, what you allow to find you, how you respond, what you choose, and what you leave behind. The life you want doesn’t just stay once it’s here. It is continuously chosen to be the life you live.

Maybe things don’t happen to teach you a lesson, but things happen and you decide what lesson you take from them. Maybe pain doesn’t come with purpose, but purpose is built from pain. Maybe you don’t go through hard times because there are lessons to be learned, but because life is unpredictable and you’re human. Maybe healing isn’t about understanding why it happened but accepting that it did. Maybe the lesson isn’t in what happened, but in the way you carry it forward. Maybe growth is chosen. Maybe life just happens, and you determine whether it happens to you or for you.

Sometimes you have to go through what you should have never had to go through. Sometimes you have to heal from things that weren’t your fault. Some things—some experiences—you were never meant to go through, and still you did. Stop believing you deserved the hurt just because you survived it. Stop convincing yourself that the pain belongs to you, that maybe you don’t deserve kindness, gentleness, and love. Start believing that you deserve better. Let yourself release what isn’t yours to hold. Let yourself heal. You didn’t deserve any of it. But you deserve everything good that comes next.

If no one does it with you, choose to do it anyway. You don’t need someone else to live the life you want. You don’t need permission. You don’t need the right moment or the right person. You need yourself. You don’t need to be healed, fearless, or ready. You can do it afraid. You can do it alone. You can act while you’re breaking and dream while you’re grieving. None of it disqualifies you—it comes with you. You can do it. You can do anything. Everything.

It’s not that you don’t know what you want. It’s that what you want doesn’t match what you were taught would make you happy. You aren’t stuck because you lack clarity; you’re stuck because you know exactly what you want and are afraid of what it will cost you. You’re afraid of disappointing those who imagined a different path for you. You’re afraid that living a life different from others’ will make yours wrong. You’re afraid of being misunderstood, rejected, and unloved—and maybe, by some, you will be. Maybe not everything from your old life can follow you into your new one. The life meant for you may involve grieving the one you thought you wanted.

You don’t need to understand love to receive it. You don’t need to feel safe for safety to exist. Feeling alone doesn’t mean you are. Feeling broken doesn’t mean you are broken. You are whole, even while healing. You are worthy. What you feel matters; it’s just not everything. This is your truth right now, but it is not the truth.

I don’t need to say it, but I will. I know you’ve been through so much lately. I know you’re tired, I know you’re afraid and lonely. Trust me, I know it’s hard. I know you’ve thought about giving up—many times. And still, you find a way to keep going. You hold on. You choose to stay. And I hope you already know this, but I’m saying it anyway to remind you: I’m proud of you. Keep going. You’ve got this. I believe in you, always. And I love you more than you know.

What you think you need is not always what you need. What you believe will make you happy is probably the thing that will leave you unhappy. What you need is to stop seeking outside of you what has always been within you. What you need for healing is grace and the permission to feel it all—joy, sadness, discomfort, and peace. What you need to grow is the courage to let go of what no longer aligns with you, to let go of people, places, and past versions of yourself. What you need is to breathe. What you think will make you happy probably won’t; what will is love. What you need is love.

No one will ever love you the way you long to be loved, but you can love yourself that way. No one can believe in you the way you need, but no one should believe in you more than you do. No one can change your life for you, but you can change your life. I hope you do.

You don’t have to be strong. Softness is strength, too. You don’t need to hold it all together anymore. You don’t have to make it through another day, week, or year of staying composed. Your heart is tired and needs space to breathe. Let it break. You’ve been through so much, and there is courage in feeling it. Don’t resist your experience—resistance keeps you stuck. Let the sadness in. Sit with the loss, the heartache, the disappointment, and allow it to be. It’s okay to feel what lives in your heart. There is courage in vulnerability. There is bravery in healing. If you want to be strong, be soft.

It hurts to be rejected for who you are, but it hurts more to be accepted for someone you’re not. One costs you the wrong people. The other costs you yourself.

It’s going to be hard. It will hurt. There will be days when you want nothing more than to give up. On those days, give everything you have to keep going. Even if “everything” is just getting out of bed. Even if it’s just staying. You can’t demand healing, but when you stay, when you don’t quit on yourself, you make space for it. You have to continue. You have to try your best, even if your best looks nothing like it used to. Even if it doesn’t feel like enough. Every time you thought you wouldn’t make it, you did. This time is no different. You will make it through this too.

You can’t love someone into loving you. You cannot change someone into choosing you. People only change when they want to change for themselves. But you can choose differently. You can change the person you choose. You cannot change another person, but you can change what you believe you are worthy of. And that changes everything.

You don’t need to cry, but if you need to, you can. You don’t have to heal from everything, but you are allowed to heal from anything. You don’t have to be happy, but when you choose joy, that is what finds you. There is no one you have to love, but when you love yourself just a little more, you attract more love. There is nothing you have to be, but everything you are becoming deserves space, grace, and compassion.

If you promise me one thing, promise me that you will never give up, okay? I promise it will be worth it.

Maybe there is nowhere else you need to be but here. No one else you need to be but you. Nothing you need to do but love. Maybe this is it. Maybe this is enough.

You can’t make the wrong person the right one. If it’s one-sided, it’s not love—it’s attachment. It doesn’t matter how much you care, how deeply you love, or how badly you want it to work. Your effort cannot make up for a lack of theirs. You can’t make someone show up the way you need them to. You can’t do the work for someone who isn’t willing to do it. If you’re the only one giving, it’s time to let go. Your heart deserves so much better.

Whatever you need, do it. Let yourself move through it. Heal when your heart is tired, try again when hope feels far, and let yourself break if you must. Slow down. Fall. Cry. Rest. Give yourself what you need most. Love yourself through it all. And promise yourself this—never give up.

You can love someone who doesn’t love you, but you are not meant to build a life with them. Love can exist without reciprocity; relationships cannot. Love can be unrequited, but in a healthy relationship it can’t be. Don’t mistake attraction for love or attachment for connection. Don’t confuse chemistry with compatibility or physical intimacy with emotional intimacy. Be honest with yourself about the foundation you’re building on, because feelings alone are not a structure—they are not robust. Don’t build on a foundation that will never hold what it needs to. You can love someone and let them go. When you let go of someone who doesn’t love you, you make space for someone who does.

Hold onto nothing but hope. Hold onto hope as you heal. Hold on, but let yourself move on. Healing is how hope finds its way back. Hope holds what you believe is lost until you realize it is not. When you hold hope, it is never lost. When you hold hope, it holds you.

Healing hurts. It’s okay to let your heart break into pieces. It’s okay to cry and let the tears fall. It’s okay to feel everything because that’s what your heart was made for. Be gentle with it as you move from asking why this happened to asking what this is teaching you. Hold it softly as you shift your focus from what you are losing to what you are gaining. Let your heart understand that missing them and choosing yourself can exist at the same time. Don’t wait to feel healed before moving forward; move forward as you heal.

It hurts more when you love them. Everything means more when it comes from someone you love. When you care, the way they treat you matters. When they don’t notice how hard you’re trying, it’s disappointing. When they criticize you, misunderstand you, and make you feel like you’re always doing something wrong, it hurts. But it doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. Maybe it should hurt. Maybe it would be worse if it didn’t, because that would mean you didn’t care. It would mean you didn’t love them. It always hurts more the more you love.

Grieve for as long as you need to. Hold on until you can let go. Take as much time as it takes. Some days it will feel heavy; some days it won't. There is no right way to miss someone, there is no other way to heal than your own, and there is no loss that doesn’t carry love. Be gentle and gracious with yourself as you fall in love with living again.

Whatever state you are in is exactly what the relationship will mirror back to you. Enter the relationship immature, and that's what it will become. Enter broken, and unless healing happens, the relationship will break too. If you don't learn to let go, you will hold onto what the relationship was when it needs to evolve. If you don’t work on yourself, those same problems will live in the relationship. A relationship won’t heal you, but it will show you where healing is still needed.

Don’t stop feeling because you feel too much. Don’t stop caring because you care deeply. Don’t stop loving because you love with your whole heart. When you close your heart to protect it from the pain of unrequited love, you also close it to the beauty of love that is returned. When you close your heart to hurt, you also won’t feel joy. You cannot choose what you feel. Let yourself feel whatever comes, fully and deeply. That is the beauty of the heart: it feels what needs to be felt. It allows the body to process what you are going through. Isn’t it more beautiful to feel everything than to feel nothing at all?

Not everyone has to believe in you as long as you do. Not everyone has to see your dreams or your visions. Most people won’t believe until it’s already happening, until your dreams are already coming true. That’s how it’s always been. So many people believed in the dark before the light showed. So many people had to do it alone. You might have to do it alone, but don’t confuse that with being alone. You never are.

You are not hard to love. You deserve nothing less than the best. You are worthy of people who love you as you are, happiness that fills your heart, and a life made of dreams. And if that’s not what you have, I hope you have the courage to change it. I hope you love yourself enough to know you deserve so much better—and to make space for better to find you.

There are people who love you. Don’t lose them by focusing on the ones who don’t. Notice the people who care, not those who don’t. There are people who make you feel seen; don’t shift your attention to the ones who don’t. Some people won’t be kind to you. Focus on those who are. Some will never recognize your worth—they won’t believe in you or be gentle with you. Let them. Just don’t let yourself be one of them.

You are on your own. No one hears your thoughts the way you do. No one lives inside your body. No one can take away the pain you’re carrying. No matter how loved you are, some pain is yours alone. People can listen, they can care and give advice, but they can’t go through it for you. You have to. Whatever you are going through right now, you are going to make it through. You have every other time. You will again. You are going to be okay. You can do it afraid. You can do it without feeling ready. You can do it while doubting yourself. You can do it alone.

Your life isn’t “too good.” It’s exactly as good as it’s meant to be. What’s finding you now is what you’ve always deserved—love that stays, joy that settles, and peace that comes from within. Good things aren’t accidents; they’re finding you because they’re meant to. This isn’t too good to be true. It’s good, and it’s true. Let your life be good. Let your heart be full. Let your life be abundant. Let yourself experience the good without bracing for loss. You deserve all of it. Every little part. Everything and more.

You don’t need to belong somewhere you don’t belong. You don’t need to be loved by someone who doesn’t love you. You don’t have to let go—unless you’re forcing it to stay. Nothing needs force. Everything needs trust. What’s meant to stay will stay without fear, without effort, without you breaking yourself to keep it alive. Let what isn’t for you be just that. So what is for you can find you.

I don’t know who made you feel unworthy of love, but you are deeply and endlessly loved. I don’t know who made you believe you had to earn love, but you never did. I’m not sure who convinced you that you couldn’t succeed or that your dreams were too big, but they aren’t, and there is nothing you can’t do. I don’t know who made you feel out of place, but you belong here, exactly as you are. I’m not sure who made you question your worth, but you have always been enough, and you deserve the best. You deserve all the peace, love, and joy this life will bring to you.

Something becomes meant for you when you decide it is. Some blessings wait for you to believe in them. There are things that would be yours already if you just stopped convincing yourself they aren’t. Good things are already on their way to you, and when they arrive, may you let them. Let yourself believe you’re allowed to have beautiful things. Let yourself believe you can hold onto the good without losing it. Let yourself believe it can stay. Let yourself believe you’re worthy.

Maybe they didn’t choose you. They didn’t choose to hold you, to care for you, and to love you. But please know that this doesn’t mean you weren’t worthy of being chosen. All along, you were deserving of someone who could love you as fully as you love.

I hope you become someone who knows your worth, even on the days no one is there to remind you. I hope you choose healing, even when it feels unfamiliar and uncomfortable. I hope you choose softness, even when you have learnt to protect your heart from breaking to pieces. I hope you feel seen. And more than anything, I hope you lean into love—not the kind that hurts or asks you to shrink, but the kind that feels like a warm hug. The kind that feels like coming home.

You don’t only get what you can handle. You learn to handle whatever you get. You learn to go through what you should have never had to go through. And you learn—because what else can you do? You bend, you break, you rebuild. When life demands vulnerability, you open up even when it is hard. When it demands endurance, you hold on. When life says stay, you stay. Because when there is no alternative, you find a way. You realize the only direction that exists is through. So through is what you choose.

I promise you it won't be this hard forever. Your heart hurts because it is healing. Your heart feels heavy because the pain is disintegrating. Hold on, but do not hold onto the feelings as though they are yours to keep. Let them flow through you. Keep moving with them, not against them. Don't ask yourself whether you will be okay; tell yourself you will be. Don't ask if you will make it; tell yourself you're already on the way. Stay.

I hope you meet someone who loves you the way you love them. I hope you find people who hold your heart gently, the way it always deserved. And I hope you have the courage to let go of those who never learned how. I hope you are brave enough to leave when “almost” starts to feel like “enough.” Brave enough to realize you deserve more. I hope you know that you are worthy of being chosen by the people you chose. I hope you find your people. And when you do, I hope you love them deeply, before life reminds you how quickly you can lose the people you thought you’d always have.

Maybe you believe you love too deeply only because others don’t love you enough. Maybe you think you care too much because the people you choose care too little. Maybe you’re not asking for too much, but you’re just asking it from the wrong people. Wanting a love that feels safe and warm isn’t asking for too much; it’s asking for the bare minimum. Maybe it was never about you at all, but about them. Maybe you never gave too much—maybe you simply gave to people who didn’t know how to receive or return it.

When your heart feels heavy, let it. When you need to cry, let the tears fall. When you are in pain, feel it. You don’t need to be okay right now, nor do you have to pretend you are. You don’t have to fix anything or rise above it. All you have to do is be here—with everything that is. To hold yourself gently, and to carry yourself through it with compassion and grace.

The love you find when you are at your worst is the love that stays when you are at your best. Not the other way around. Anyone can love you when you’re happy, healthy, and successful, but notice who is there when you’re breaking, tired, or lost. Pay attention to the people that love you when you can’t even love yourself. That kind of love is the only love that lasts.

Please never give up, okay? I know you’re not okay right now, but you will be okay again. And in the meantime, know that it’s okay not to be okay. It’s okay not to know how to keep going. It’s okay to feel stuck, lost, or out of place. It’s okay to cry if you need to—release it. Let everything be what it is. Allow it to come and go as it does. Let it flow. Everything you’re going through won’t feel this heavy once you let yourself move through it. And eventually, you will feel like yourself again.

I don’t know who needs to hear this, but maybe this found you because you do. It won’t hurt this much forever. The pain, the disbelief, the heaviness you feel right now—it won't stay. You are going to be okay. Everything is going to be okay, I promise.

If you’ve had a hard day, a difficult week, or maybe a challenging year, I hope you’re proud of yourself for staying. It takes so much courage to wake up with a heavy heart and still choose to show up. I hope you love yourself a little extra in the moments it feels hardest, on the days you feel you don’t deserve it—because you always do. And I hope you remember that it’s going to get better from here. It will get so much better.

One day, you won’t feel the way you do right now. One day you won’t feel broken, tired, and empty anymore. One day you’ll be healing more than you are hurting. You will be able to breathe deeply again. You will trust again. One day, you will find someone who loves you exactly as you are—and they will find you without you having to lose yourself first. One day your heart will overflow with a kind of love and joy you’ve never felt before. Hold on. Because one day might be tomorrow.

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